My parents should have divorced when they were in their 50's. Now they're in their 80's and it's too late. My mother has always tried to alienate me from my father. Many years ago I had to set a rule -- that if she began bad-mouthing my father to me, I would end the conversation.
I am blessed by your mess which mirrors mine and your husband and I would have frustrated Noah building the ark. They would have gotten sent to “;find more pitch”; just to get them out of the way! Thank you for this wonderful reminder. I am in the same stage and age bracket as you are and I know…;.it’;s time. Blessings sister.